1. Introduction

A couple of weeks ago, I believe that a reader made a comment about my looks. To summarize, the reader said something along the lines of the reason I seemed to have such an easy time with women was because I was good-looking. This sounds like a guy that has never met me or read my stories, because if he did, then he would know that it is my personality that gets BBW and not my looks. If you’re one of my Facebook friends, then I encourage you to take a look at my pictures. Why? Because in almost every picture, I am making some kind of retarded face, and I am dressed down in some kind of lazy t-shirt or hat. I have almost no pictures of when I am actually trying to look good for the camera and am dressed up to attract BBW. Why do I bring that up? Because those are the same pictures that I used on my online dating profile when I had it up. If you look at those pictures, you could easily rate me at a 6 or 7 simply because I am not trying to look “hot” in them, and you don’t really get an idea of how tall I really am.

2. Online dating profile

What about my online dating profile? In spite of my sub-par pictures, I never had to initiate contact with BBW. I always had women sending me messages, and none of those messages were “you are so hot”. Then what were they referencing to when they messaged me? How funny my profile was. In other words, these chubby women were contacting me because of something about my personality. With that being said, if I bother to dress nice, and am standing in front of you in real life, I easily jump to an 8 or 9 for a lot of women, depending on if she goes for the tall thin model types or the athlete with bulging muscles. I’m in the Midwest, so most busty women select for the athlete over the model types. However, like I said before, I do get approached at least once every 1-2 nights that I’m out.

3. Date BBW

Either way, what I look like plays very little into whether or not I sleep with or date a busty girl. I’ve noticed that the only thing my looks are good for, is getting my foot in the door. After that, I have to actually have a personality. I’ve had BBW approach me on nights when I’m more reserved and not my normal self, and absolutely lose interest in me. One of the most frustrating things that use to happen to me a lot, is I would be very reserved with my personality, and lose a lot of the chubby women that would approach me first or were initially into me.

4. BBW Approach

Clearly, my looks don’t play much of a role past the initial approach. What I have noticed, however, is that on any given night when I am loose, and being my typical wild, crazy, funny self, I am absolutely surrounded by BBW, regardless of how I’m dressed. In fact, if I had to choose between being a physically unattractive guy with a great personality, or an extremely hot guy with no personality, I would choose to be the physically unattractive guy simply because I know that personality will take a guy a lot further with curvy women than his looks will.

5. Success with BBW

I think that what happens with a lot of guys that blame other men's looks for their success with BBW is that they are looking for an excuse as to why chubby women don’t like them. These guys never look at themselves and say “hey, maybe I just lack confidence or have a really bland personality, and that’s why big and beautiful women don’t like me.”. It’s much easier for these guys to blame it on looks because no guy wants to admit that maybe he just has a really shitty personality.

6. Conclusion

I’ll tell you guys something. I am out with BBW every weekend. They’re always inviting me out, and I go everywhere with them. As a result, I get to see guys constantly hitting on them. Many of these guys are very good-looking and buff as fuck, yet they constantly get rejected. I get to be with these busty girls not because of my looks, but rather, because I am just a very fun guy to hang around and they love my personality. Looks matter, but personality matters much more.